The Father

They say trouble comes in threes.

You certainly won’t find everything about my adventures in parenting here on this page, but I thought I’d include a few tidbits about my boys and some links to their favorite stuff, along with a few links that are important to me on the subject of fatherhood.

Someone told me a while back that fatherhood is an “archaic” word. He was a gay man on my gad dad’s forum, Gay Fatherhood.com, and I suppose he was trying to broaden my views. Perhaps he thought that I was trying to narrow the definition of a parent, specifically a gay man’s role as a dad. Whatever his intent, being a dad is one of the few things in my life that I really really wanted to be, and Dad is the most important title I have. I am all for kicking the stereotypes to the curb and I’ll be the first to say that families are what we make them. We don’t need prescribed masculine and feminine roles to make good parents, we just need love discipline and commitment. But that does not make fatherhood an out of date word.

I really don’t wish to diminish the various ways that people can be parents, two mommies, or a single parent, but I do wish to share the joy I have at being a dad. The reason I chose the word fatherhood in my gay dad’s forum was in part because I have seen and heard so much about dead beat and absent dads who seem to have little to do with their children’s lives at all. I cannot imagine it. So in part I wished to stress the importance of the role both for the sake of the children involved and their parents.

GayFatherhood.com, is a global community for gay dads. I’m rather protective and possessive of this site because it’s one I started and through it I have met literally some of my very best friends in the world. It’s not just an online thing.

Okay, still constructing this monster of a blog and it’s mulitple pages and topics. If you are still interested I hope you’ll come back again and see how it’s coming together!

David